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Last week, I wrote about grieving the life you had before cancer and starting a New You binder. Today, I want to talk about one part of life many of us stop dreaming about after diagnosis. Intimacy. This deserves tenderness. It also deserves honesty. As always, this is not medical advice. It is a human place to start, from someone who has been there. When your body feels like a stranger As someone who is disabled and battling cancer, I know there are times when I am simply no

So, you have cancer. It sucks. There is no shiny way to say that. A diagnosis can split your life into a before and an after. Before cancer, you may have had plans, routines, energy, privacy, confidence, a body you understood, or at least one you knew how to live in. After cancer, even ordinary things can feel complicated. As someone fighting cancer myself, I get it. I could write a book about the ins and outs of this disease, and I'm sure you could too. But if you are readin

We need to talk about the elephant in the room. For decades, the conversation around pornography (especially in faith spaces) has been defined by two things: moral condemnation and total silence. We’ve all heard the sermons. We’ve heard mega-church pastors declare that porn is a "portal to demonic oppression." And while people may agree with the spiritual gravity of that statement, what happens next? The sermon ends. The music plays. And thousands of people walk out the sanc

When we talk about marital rape, the conversation almost always gets reduced to a single word: “No.” Consent is not as simple as we were made to believe. We were taught that you say “yes,” or you say “no.” But when you are living inside a high-control or abusive marriage, reality isn't that neat. So many women survive encounters with their husbands that leave them feeling violated, empty, and traumatized. But the word “rape” is usually the last word in their minds. There

If you have found yourself in the grasp of a disordered personality—whether a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath—you have likely found yourself feeling completely crazy at times. You know what the Bible says, but what you are experiencing in your daily reality simply does not match up. This gap between what they say and what they do is where confusion thrives. But Scripture gives us an unyielding standard for discernment. In Matthew 7:15-20, Jesus explicitly warns us that w

As a certified massage therapist, I have seen the benefits that massage can have for a series of ailments, including chronic pain. I never imagined the ways that massage could serve survivors of marital rape in their recovery journeys. Being touched in any way is not something most survivors are open to, let alone a stranger. Laying on a table, feeling exposed, being open to letting someone explore your body and it’s reactions, takes a level of courage that not many have.

Growing up in a world entrenched in purity culture can leave deep scars on one's psyche, especially for young girls who are taught toxic beliefs about their bodies and sexuality. For many, dealing with the guilt and shame instilled by these beliefs can feel like an insurmountable challenge, with no clear path to healing in sight. But it is possible to break free from the chains of purity culture and reclaim your sexual pleasure. As someone who has navigated the treacherous wa